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How to Stop Depression After a Breakup

The book Bouncing Back: Rewiring Your Brain for Maximum Resilience and Well-Being contains a lot of research, stories and some mental training strategies to be able to get over stressful and traumatic events.  This is important because stress has been proven to compromise emotion regulation circuits in such a way that it prevents a person from bouncing back.  By having neural pathways that have been habituated to continually surrender prevents a person from getting out of that mindset which also causes a person to have a higher incidence of depression.
One convincing study on how bad stress can be for the brain was done by Dr. Richie Davidson.
He graduated Harvard in 1976 in psychology and since then he's been studying happiness and the circuits in the brain responsible for resilience.  In this study he found out that prolonged marital stress is associated with short-lived responses to positive stimuli.  The stress, after time compromises emotion regulation circuitry in such a way that causes bouncing back to be very challenging.

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The Meta Identity to Reprogram Your Mind

Before going anywhere, it's a lot easier to know where you're going.

To change a program, it's easier to know what you want to change.  It's sort of like getting ready for an event.  The dress rehearsal.  You put on the outfit and you do the pretend version of a special thing.  Outfit works great.  Awesome.  You know what you will look like on that future day.  You are doing some long term planning and have stepped into a version of reality to practice for the real thing.  In a sense you are creating a program.   You know that an event is happening and before it does you do some planning and preparing for it. You get yourself used to doing this new special thing so that it goes right for when it happens later.

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