This article is from Mindful magazine and written by Elisha Goldstein Ph.D
I always say if there’s anything we’re assured of in life besides death and taxes, it’s stress and pain. While that may seem like a doomsday statement, if you look at it again, it’s actually quite freeing. If you know stress and pain are inevitable, then you can learn how to be grateful for the good when it’s here and be graceful when the stress and pain arrives.
“It is what it is, while it is. Nothing lasts forever. Difficulties will pass and so will the wonders; tune in to the preciousness of life. Bring this awareness into the moments of your day, tuning in to what really matters.”
If you know stress and pain are inevitable, then you can learn how to be grateful for the good when it’s here and be graceful when the stress and pain arrives.
3 Types of Mind Traps that Drain Our Inner Strength
- We get stuck comparing ourselves to others in an endless game of judgment and unworthiness that poisons our relationships.
- We become enslaved by the brain’s natural negativity bias. Driven by fear it anticipates the worst case scenarios driving catastrophic thinking and dis-ease.
- In an effort to expel a difficult feeling we are compelled to blame others or ourselves for missed expectations. This only makes matters worse.
What it really comes down to is there are moments in life that are hard. What would it be like to acknowledge that and turn a caring attention toward ourselves in an effort to approach the wounded part of ourselves rather than avoiding?
A Simple Way to Turn Negative Emotions into a Source of Strength
- Say to yourself, “While this is a temporary feeling, it is here right now, how can I care for it, what do I need?”
Play with this in the days that come, watch the love you inside grow and watch how infectious it can be to the people around you. Imagine the ripple effects.
Adapted from Mindfulness & Psychotherapy
by Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and conducts a private practice in West Los Angeles. He is author of Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self-Compassion (Atria Books, 2015), The Now Effect (Atria Books, 2012), Mindfulness Meditations for the Anxious Traveler (Atria Books, 2013), and co-author of A Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction Workbook (New Harbinger, 2010).