How to Get Over Your Ex in 5 Hours is based on memory reconsolidation, post-traumatic growth, and strategies proven to be effective for taking the emotional charge out of past memories.

Chapter 4 Excerpt.
Strategies using this memory reconsolidation framework have been successfully applied to military men (24) and women (25) for relief of PTSD and memories of military sexual trauma.

Here is a quote from a study published on the American Psychological Association website of a paper titled "Reconsolidation of Traumatic Memories for PTSD: A randomized controlled trial of 74 male veterans"

"provides evidence to support a fast (5 hours or fewer) robust intervention for PTSD characterized by intrusive symptoms including current-month flashbacks, nightmares, and accompanied by sympathetic arousal in response to trauma narratives" (24.)

Memories of your ex are likely not as severe as some of the memories being reconsolidated by the traumatized military, however the delivery route is still the same. We will be taking the memory reconsolidation road to change memories of your ex using the same strategy and variations thereof used to clear trauma memories .

These types of reconsolidation strategies are a way to use a natural, albeit unintuitive method for changing memories and generating self-directed neuroplasticity for self improvement. And these changes last. The evidence shows that the changes after reconsolidation persisted for more than a year. Updating files in the way we process memories can have an effect on the trajectory of our lives.

‘It is clear that the intentional deployment of specific mental training strategies can induce plastic changes in the brain which endure and which can transform our cognitive and emotional styles.‘ - Richard Davidson Ph.D. on neuroplasticity.

Chapter 5. Excerpt.

It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptive to change - Charles Darwin.

Stress has a long term negative effect on emotion regulation circuitry. If setbacks left you unable to function for long periods of time, it can prevent you from achieving what you want and can also make future relationships difficult if you can’t handle stress. And again, it's not your fault. It's your brain. People who have marital stress can end up having their emotion regulation circuitry compromised. This is partly why marital stress is associated with a higher incidence of psychiatric disorders, particularly major depression. (1)(Ryff, Davidson 2014)

Additionally, people who are slow to recover from setbacks have fewer or weaker signals traveling from the prefrontal cortex to the amygdala, as a result of either low activity in the prefrontal cortex itself or too few or less functional connections between the prefrontal and the amygdala.

The prefrontal cortex is like the CEO of your brain. It’s like a boss in your skull and it’s office is located behind your forehead and it's also the last part of your brain to physiologically develop. It fully develops when we are in our mid to late 20's. which explains why we can make some bad decisions in our youth. It's also why car insurance is so expensive for 25 year olds...no manager!

Here are some of the references from Chapter 4.

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