57 Stages of Change Questions to Get Over a Breakup.

Getting over a breakup is like getting over an addiction. One way of overcoming addictions to your ex is to use the Dr James Prochaska Stages of Change model which is used to help people get over addictions of various kinds.

What he found is that people go through certain stages of change when going through transformations.

These questions are based Prochaska's Stages of Change model, and can help someone understand where they are in the stages in getting over a breakup.

Precontemplation

1. Are you aware of the need to move on from the relationship?
2. Are you currently thinking about the relationship or your ex-partner?
3. Do you believe that your relationship can be fixed?
4. Do you feel that you have no control over your current situation?
5.  Have you sought out resources such as books, articles, or support groups to help you move on?
6. Have you made a list of things you want to achieve post-breakup?
7. Have you taken steps to improve your physical and emotional well-being?
8. Are you feeling more in control of your emotions and thoughts related to the breakup?
9. Are you feeling more motivated to take action towards moving on?
10. Are you in denial about the end of the relationship?
11. Do you believe that the relationship can still be saved?
12. Are you avoiding thinking about the relationship or your feelings towards it?
13. Do you feel hopeless about your ability to move on from the relationship?
14. Are you clinging to the idea of reconciliation?

Contemplation

15. Have you started to think about the possibility of moving on from the relationship?
16. Are you beginning to see the negative aspects of the relationship?
17. Have you started to weigh the pros and cons of staying in or leaving the relationship.
18. Are you starting to consider seeking support or counselling?
19. Are you experiencing mixed emotions about the relationship?
20. Are you starting to recognize the negative impact the relationship has had on you?
21. Are you considering seeking help or support for coping with the breakup?
22. Are you feeling unsure about what your next steps should be?
23. Are you experiencing a range of emotions, such as anger, sadness, and confusion?
24. Are you having trouble making decisions related to the relationship?

Preparation

25. Have you made a plan for how to move on from the relationship?
26. Have you sought support from friends and family?
27. Have you started to take steps to improve your emotional well-being?
28. Have you started to make changes in your life to help you move on?
29. Are you feeling more confident about your ability to move on

Action

30. Have you ended contact with your ex-partner?
31. Have you started to focus on self-care and self-improvement?
32. Have you started to take action towards your goals?
33. Have you started to rebuild your social circle?
34. Are you feeling more positive about your future?
35. Have you unfollowed or blocked your ex-partner on social media?
36. Are you actively avoiding places or people that remind you of the relationship?
37. Have you started to focus on your personal growth and self-improvement?
38. Are you feeling less emotionally attached to your ex-partner?
39. Are you starting to see the benefits of being free from the relationship?

Maintenance

40. Have you been successful in avoiding contact with your ex-partner?
41. Are you continuing to focus on self-care and self-improvement?
42. Have you developed new hobbies or interests?
43. Are you feeling more confident in your ability to cope with difficult emotions?
44. Are you feeling more positive about your future?
45. Are you continuing to practice self-care and self-improvement?
46. Are you able to maintain healthy boundaries with your ex-partner?
47. Are you actively working on maintaining a positive mindset?
48. Have you successfully avoided relapsing into negative thoughts or behaviors related to the relationship?
49. Are you feeling more confident in your ability to move forward and create a fulfilling life post-breakup?

Termination

50. Have you successfully moved on from the relationship?
51. Have you developed a positive outlook on relationships?
52. Are you able to focus on your future goals and aspirations?
53. Have you achieved a sense of closure in regards to the relationship?
54. Do you feel at peace with the end of the relationship?
55. Are you able to think about your ex-partner without feeling negative emotions?
56. Are you able to form new and healthy relationships?
57. Are you able to let go of the past and focus on the present and future?

Also with the stages of change model, a person can wobble back and forth across them and still be on the right path to recovery. In other words, having a relapse can be part of your eventual progress.